After being invited by some "friends", I recently created a facebook. In my face book, I have 11 friends. I tried hard to post some things which I feel quite interesting and meaningful on the feeds, however, my facebook friends barely have any responses. Just like when you want to share somethings with your friends, you have beening waiting for a long time, then no body would like to share with you, they do not have interests with the things you want to share with. What would you feel? I feel a bit dispointed, then I tell meself that they might be very busy to share right now.
I logged in the facebook, all the huge communication details appeared in front of me. One of my facebook friends has already have 1,897 friends in his facebook, others at least have more than 100 friends each. I have just got 11. I feel shocked, then I paied much attention to trace their communication details. All of them are very actively participating in the team. They have been post a lot of pictures and messages to talk to each other, contents are including their daily routines, their shchedules, their happy moments & their parties with other friends. Some of them make a new friend with a person in every 8 minutes.
One of my facebook friend once posted a message that"human stupidity made him feel very upset." Indicated somethings happened in his workplace. I posted the British Philosopher-Alan Watts's speech video " The human game" and "The uninterlligent universe" to cheer him up, but he never clicked those links. And one of his facebook friend commented as " This made me very excited and I want to shake MY head." Frankly speaking, I cannot see any connection between his problem with his friend's comment.
Actually, I barely know this facebbok friend , just one time meet in airplane, had a 10 mins conversation, then changed the email addresses by his insist, then received his invitation to his facebook afer 3 days, then we became facebook friends. Another facebook friend who I met in a dancing class, just became a facebook friend after being dancing parters for 30 mins.Then I never see them again.Silly me! How could I expect that a friend met you only one time then respond to you whatever you want to share with them, they may feel uninterested or simply dislike the things which you wish to share, why they have to accept you? But I still couldn't figure out that if they are not interested in what I wish to share with them, how come they were interested in inviting me as their friends in the first place? Is this just like " Human Game" which Alan Watts pointed out?
This is a game. How come a person can make a new friends in every 8 mins? How come there is no many people discuss some deeper topics in facebook? How come they looked all try to escape from some sensitive topics, and seems all interested in each other's daily routines and schedules?When I posted that" Dear everyone, Christmas will come soon, if it is possible, please tell me you mail addressed, I will post some christmas cards to your guys." Then I gave my addresses on the facebook. But nobody even responsed to this message. Later I talked about this to one of my good friends who does not have a face book, she commented " Those guys probably think it is quite dangerous to give addresses to you who they donot know well." I argued her back" But they invited me to their face book, they should at least trust me as a friend. Plus I really want to give them my best regards." My tears came out , My friend suddenly held me , said" " Donot care too much, you have me."
I logged in my facebook on Christmas day, watching the huge communication information which are exchanging between them , their party photoes, their Christmas holiday schedules, but with other people may not in their facebook. Then I sundenly realised that people maybe donot add their "friends" in their facebook.All my real friends never invited me to their facebooks and most of them donot use a facebook Facebook friends are "far away& Convenient" friends.
I donot really like games. Human games are crule. When a person feel lonely, she/he needs friends. Facebook created a stage for many lonely people to communicate to the outside world in a shallow way, to just talk to people, but it is always better than no boday to talk. I suddenly remembered in the movie" Cast Away", Tom Hanks lived in a remote island, a volleyball named
"Wilson" became his only friend with no spirit . However, by the end, when Wilson was away from Tom, Tom felt so sad and almost die. I suppose that the facebook friends will never be like "Wilson" and Tom.
Is facebook friends, to a large degree for acquaitace, not for friendship? Or the concept of "friendship" has been changed in this modern society? I remembered , there is an old saying of definition of "friendship"-" A friend in need is a friend indeed." I do not feel that facebook friends are in need each other.Sincerity and trust should be very important factors of being friends, I cannot feel too much sincerity and trust between facebook friends. It gives me a feeling that just liking eatting fast food. But real friendship needs to be carefully cultivated.
Would it be better to buy a new notebook for the contacts of some real friends? There are too many meaningful things to do in the life.
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